Do
you notice every pregnant woman and wish it were you? Have you already
picked out names, counted fingers and toes and heard that little voice
call you mommy or daddy? Do you feel pregnant every month only to get
your period a couple days later? Choose to give yourself the best possible chance to have your baby. Having
gone through fertility treatments myself, I understand the need and
desire to have a baby, and how difficult and stressful it can be. Your
life becomes all about numbers - the first day of your last period,
what day of your cycle it is, what day you need to do your injections
or to take your hormone pills (and how many this cycle), and what day
you did or should have intercourse (and sometimes what time!). Your sex
life is no longer romantic but has become dictated and mechanical - it
has turned into what I call "baby sex".
Your
vocabulary changes. You know what a hysterosalpingogram is (and
probably how to spell it). You know that follicles aren't just at the
root of your hair. And some of those words are so big that you are now
speaking with abbreviations: you know what ART, BBT, GIFT, ZIFT, IVF,
IUI, LH, FSH, and HCG stand for.
Your
body no longer feels sacred. You have been so poked and prodded. Or
there is my favorite line "This is a teaching facility. Do you mind if
a few students observe?" I have lost count how many people have seen me
in stirrups. How did something so natural become so hard?
Then
there are the mental games we play. The conflict between trying to
think positive vs. not getting your hopes up on the day your period is
supposed to arrive. And if it didn't come, is it because you are
pregnant or because you are so stressed out that your hormones are all
out of whack? On numerous occasions I was late for work because I
didn't want to get out of bed. My period usually started about 15
minutes after I got up in the morning. So if I didn't stand up then my
period couldn't start, right? This was one of many completely
unreasonable justifications I would have swarming in my head. I was
confusing "thinking" for "doing". There are so many times that you
can't "do" anything about trying to get pregnant and that is probably
the most frustrating part of it for those of us that have a Type A
personality. We have to be "doing" something. But there are so many
days out of the month that you can't "do" a darn thing so we just
"think" it to death so we feel like we are "doing" something. We are
planning, and playing the "what if" game, reading everything we can get
our hands on, looking for recipes for fertility-friendly foods, trying
every possible theory even if it is an old wives tale.
Here's
why that doesn't work. You think with the conscious side of your brain
- the logical, analytical side. All your autonomic systems happen in
the subconscious side of your brain - the regulation of all your
hormone levels, ovulation, implantation, etc. None of that happens just
because you think about it just like when your heart beats & your
eyelids blink. However, you can over think it to the point that your
stress hormones get released, which can affect fertility.
Mental
relaxation, as well as physical relaxation is just one issue that can
be addressed with hypnosis. Please read further and then call to
schedule a free consultation so that I may answer any additional
questions you may have. |
